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On Dad and Dating

It’s been called an epidemic. And rightly so. The statistics are staggering. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 43% of children in America now live without their Father. And that number continues to grow. Research abounds on the possible effects of this reality—connecting Fatherlessness to everything from high school dropouts to substance abuse to incarceration. But more difficult to quantify are the […]

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Becoming Sibs

My mom loved to tell the story of when I was almost three and her belly was bulging with my brother and we were doing the laundry in the basement. Evidently, I climbed to the top of a mountain of dirty clothes and issued a decree. “Mommy, let’s name our baby Kenny.” Undoubtedly, it wasn’t my first bossy proclamation. But […]

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Some Kind of Happy

Yesterday was a good day. Daryl stayed on green at Kindergarten. A friend blessed me by bringing him home from school, so I could get some things done and Amelia could take an early nap. She’s not been well. In the afternoon, both kids were angels at the doctor’s office. Sitting side-by-side, arms around one another, as I read books to them. Amelia cooperated with the nurse and doesn’t have an ear infection. We treated ourselves to frozen yogurt on the way home. Then the kids played nicely together in the fall sunshine until it was time to pick up Daddy from the train. The three of us sat in anticipation at the station. “Yay! Daddy’s coming!” Amelia cried. Big grin. Hands thrown in the air. “Whoever sees Daddy first gets to go home and practice piano and then watch Curious George!” Daryl shouted. “Okay. Deal,” I said. Then, of course, Daryl spotted him first, crossing the road, all smiles. Daddy circled the car, poking his head into each window, giving each of us a kiss. Then he climbed in next to me, and we drove off into the sunset. We were so Happy! The take-our-picture-and-post-it-on-facebook kind of Happy. The film-us-for-the-closing-shot-of-your-movie kind of Happy. But then…the Love of My Life went off script and said this: “I have a meeting tonight, remember?” What? No. I did not remember. So I said so. Then he said. Then I said. Then he […]

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The Big Reveal

In my next post I will return to the subject at hand…revealing more about this particular journey of healing that God has taken me on. But here I want to take a step back—for my own benefit as much as anything—and try to explain the point of this exercise. Why I feel the need to write my way through. And […]

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On Mom: Our Secure Foundation

“Few experiences in life are as deep as the feelings we carry about our mothers.” (Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother) We tumble into this world, itty bundles with awfully high expectations. Every last one of us. And for many years, most of those expectations are aimed at one well-intentioned, yet blessedly fallible, person—the woman we call Mom. From […]

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Why This Title? Part 2

I grew up in a conspicuous family. I know now that not every head could have turned when we entered a restaurant or school event. But when I was the self-conscious age of twelve, it sure felt like it. My parents were brave, tenacious, intelligent, generous, compassionate, God-fearing, and physically disabled. They both had cerebral palsy (CP). My dad had […]

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